Hello to everyone! Today’s post is going to attempt to separate you from the parenting pack. Because we all have a little political correctness in us, few of us would like to acknowledge a fact about parenting. Some of us are simply better than others. I’ve always thought the proof of parenting skills could be found within the child. I’d argue, for example, the parent who helped place 6 kids into Harvard did things differently than the parent who has 6 kids in prison.
The inspiration for this post came from my wife over the weekend, She took a muscle conditioning class from Danielle at our local YMCA. To sum up Danielle, she is ripped! I’ve had a 300 lbs. bench press, can burn 900+ calories on an elliptical trainer in 65 minutes, and run for miles (though I’d rather not). But I’ve never come remotely close to having the muscles Danielle has. I don’t make excuses. The truth is she is better than me in the art of body sculpting. She’s more dedicated, consistent, and serious than I’ve ever been. That why she has the muscles she has and I….. (better stick to writing)
The main key to becoming a better parent is knowledge. A lot of us either have learned from our own parents or make it up as we go. The truth is though there are terrific resources which help anyone become better at this very important job. There are parenting books, magazines, and websites that are chalked full of information.
For those of us who aren’t readers (better fake it in front of your kids) there are web chats, church groups, and of course- our own friends whom we can bounce ideas.
The other part of becoming a better parent is WANTING to become a better parent. It’s keeping an open mind. Use the ideas that you like. Discard the ones you don’t. But be open to all of them! Honestly, what makes any parent think they can’t improve? Are any of you that pompous? I doubt it or you wouldn’t be at this site reading right now.
Because I’m not a “do as I say- not as I do person,” here’s what I do to get a little better. I can honestly tell you that with all my experience with kids, I still read daily. I like to read other people’s blogs, magazines, and newspaper articles (especially the ones that discuss school related issues). I also bounce ideas off my wife and love to reflect on the good and bad things that happened with my kids.
There are two things certain in my mind when it comes to parenting.
1. I’m really good at it.
2. I have a lot more to learn.
I want to be on the cutting edge while staying grounded with ideas my family instilled in me. I want to be the guy who others look toward when problems are happening. In the end, the only way of accomplishing the goal is to work at it like I would a career, marriage, or other endeavor in life. I want to be the Danielle of parenting.
As I’m finishing this article, my youngest just asked, “Do you want to play ball with me?” Time for me to leave you guys and be a better parent.
Please don’t forget to pass this along to other parents if you liked the post and I’ll see you Friday!