Sink or Swim (Part 2)

I hope everyone is having a terrific day.  Before I get into this post, I want to welcome the readers from the Feed Me Friday blog hop.  I’m happy you are here.  I also hope you will pass the post along to others if you know parents who could benefit from today’s topic.

Last Tuesday, I discussed how important it is to be vigilant around the pool or lake.  It would be a good idea to take a quick look at the blog if you have an extra minute in order to understand the particulars of this post.

Today, I want to discuss my extended family and how they lost track of a two year old.  My grandparents had 16 children. (No, that is not a misprint).  In the area and time they lived, having large families was commonplace.  Of those children, 12 of them had at least 3 children each.  I have about 50 cousins.  But, one of my uncles (Cliff) died when he was two years old.

Years have passed and there are some variations of this story.  Regardless, what happened was Cliff found his way to the pond on my grandparents’ farm, fell in, and was retrieved too late.  His grave is next to the resting place of my grandparents.

For years, I have been a bit cynical of his passing.  I always wondered how so many people could have lost track of Cliff.  But, on the other hand, my aunts and uncles are very responsible people.  While Cliff was going to the pond, many of them were involved in various chores that are associated with a farm.

Any traces of cynicism left my mind permanently when my youngest child fell into the pool at Calypso Cove and stared at me with eyes wide open- drowning.  The thing is accidents will happen in the blink of an eye.  When our children are near water, we really have to put down the Ipad, the book, and the phone in order to pay attention.

My grandparents raised children who turned out to be hard working, honest, and trustworthy people.  I am very blessed to call them aunts and uncles.  By all accounts, they had every right to be as proud as parents can be.  Nevertheless, losing Cliff was a heavy burden.  It’s a burden that happens to many families every year.  Simply watching the news or reading a newspaper will confirm this point.  I have heard of or read about four separate drownings over the last two weeks alone.

My message is simple and blunt.  Please pay attention to your child near water.  You’ll never regret it.

On Tuesday, I am going to talk about a topic that is much lighter than today’s post (because I can’t get much heavier).  My youngest child recently tore the front cover off a book- and I am incredibly proud of him.  I’ll tell you all about what happened and why you will want your child to rip off a cover or two as well.  You won’t want to miss this so feel free to include your email address located at the top right hand side of the blog.  The post will be sent to your email inbox as soon as it is published.

Have a terrific weekend!!!

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  1. Hi Clayton,

    Thanks so much for stopping my Mommy Masters. You are very right…Dads definitely use the "Mommyisms" I posted. I always feel like I am excluding the great Dads that either stay at home with their children or play a large role in the daily grind. Even though my blog is titled Mommy Masters….it really applies to all parents who are trying to master parenthood. I think in the Mommy blog world. we often forget about Dads like you who make such a difference! Perhaps I should have called it Parentingisms. Hope you are not insulted.

  2. Jessica says:

    Children and water can be very dangerous. Whenever we go to the pool I always stick with my children. Even when we are outside playing at the water table I have my eye on them.

  3. WOW! What a scary, heart-stopping situation! Glad that everything turned out alright. Sheeesh!
    Every time I stop here, you have up a new, moving blog post!! I really enjoy reading what you write – – you are a great resource for making parents more aware (of a multitude of different things!!) – and I'm glad that I know about your page!! :)
    Are you still planning a CA "tour"?
    Have a great weekend!

  4. Jessica says:

    Thanks for linking up at Thrifty Thursday! Hope to see you back next week :)


  5. Mare says:

    great blog!

  6. Kyna says:

    Such a great reminder! Thanks Clayton!

  7. sonja says:

    We too, know a child 22 months old who passed away in a backyard fish pond while his family members worked outside doing spring clean up all around him. Devastating. As a pool owner, I was also made aware of "dry drowning", something I never knew existed but have now learned the symptoms just in case. Just google it–rare but it does happen. Thanks for this excellent post!

  8. Michelle says:

    There is a video out there that I saw last summer about how drowning looks nothing like what people think it looks like. People just silently go under~~no arms flailing or making noise, because they can't. This summer at a friend's house, my daughter decided to take her swim vest off and got too deep for herself. Luckily, I happened to look over and we were able to get to her in time. My friend said, "At least she didn't freak out. She was very calm". I wanted to tell her "No, she was drowning". I need to try to remember where that video is to refresh everyone. Thanks for the post. I really need to put my kids in swimming lessons, no matter what the cost.