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Why I Avoid Arguing with Children

When parents and children live in the same house for years, tensions can get a little high at times.  It may be that parents feel children need to be disciplined and children do not like it.  It could be that children are trying to gain a certain amount of independence and parents are not willing to let go.  Where ever the tensions stem, emotions can rise which fuels arguments.  In this post, I am going to let you in on a little parenting psychology and show you the strategies I use for avoiding arguments with children.

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Criminalizing Kindergarteners

What should happen to a boy in kindergarten who has had a history of poor behavior and decides to kick his female principal?  Should she place her hands on him?  Should she call the parents?  There is a trend that is not widely talked about but has happened in more cases than you may anticipate.  This principal called the police and she stands by her decision.  I am going to lay out the pros and cons step by step.  I would love to hear your comments after you read this to know where you stand.

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Detention for Kindergarten Tardiness?

A Texas kindergarten student named Brooke from Olympia Elementary School was subjected to two days of lunch detention due to being tardy.  This specifically means that the child sat facing a wall by herself.  On the surface, this probably sounds absolutely ridiculous to a lot of my readers.  This post is going to take an honest look though at the specifics of the case and determine if the school was wrong in punishing the child.

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Teaching Hatred Through Sports

Rivalries in sports are as old as the sports themselves.  We love cheering our team on to victory and (on occasion) smashing the other team’s dreams.  There is a line though which is crossed a lot which (at the least) is unhealthy.  The line I am referring to happens with our children  in the arena of sports all the time. Specifically, when a parent teaches their child to hate a rival.

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Teacher Rattled by Violent Threat Response

Yesterday, Annie’s Mailbox printed a question posed by a teacher of two seven year old students with “major behavioral issues.”  Both students have threatened to kill her with a gun.  The teacher has gone to her principal and vice principal but no one has spoken to the boys about their behavior.

The link to this disturbing piece can be found at the bottom of this article.  Though I am a fan of their column in general, Ms. Mitchell and Ms. Sugar really missed the mark on this one and I am going to set the record straight.

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Three Ways to Gently Discipline a Child

There is a misconception by some parents that discipline has to be confrontational.  While it’s true that disciplining a child isn’t always fun, there are ways it can be done to take the sting out of it.  The truth is that there are many ways successful parents discipline and this post will reveal 3 that I have used many times successfully. Read more

How do you Foster the People?

It’s been a long time since I have written a post.  For all of my fans, all I can say is thanks for your patience.  My first post is a simple story about knowing what you are listening to before you promote it to your child.

There is a pop song I was fond of by a group called Foster the People called Pumped Up Kicks.  It has a good beat but I never really paid attention to it.  Over the weekend, I happened to hear it and placed it on my Rhapsody account.  The problem was that a lot of the words were difficult for me to understand.  Therefore, I went to my Iphone and downloaded a free app called Lyrics. (pretty convenient and I highly recommend it to all parents) Read more

Setting Expectations

Have you ever wondered if you were being too tough or too easy on your child?  It’s a very common problem with parents.  How do you push without being pushy?  How do you know when to take charge and when to back off?  These are not easy answers but after reading this article; you should feel more confident in what you are doing while understanding when to make adjustments.

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Communication with Young Children

Communication with a child is one of the real keys of raising him/her in a respectful, smart, and disciplined manner.  It’s also important to start these keys while a child is young.  In this case, I am describing a young child as being between the ages of 2 and 5 years of age.  The longer ineffective communication is allowed in the home, the harder it is to reel them back in during times of trouble.  Here are some of the strategies and how they work.

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Applying Discipline

Many parents I talk to want to know my “smoking gun” of discipline.  They are interested in finding out how I have made very difficult children behave in such a pleasant manner.  No one is perfect with children and I’ve had moments when I wish I would have done things a little better.  Overall though, I work well with difficult children.  Today, I’m going to give you some insight on how I accomplish this.

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