When parents and children live in the same house for years, tensions can get a little high at times. It may be that parents feel children need to be disciplined and children do not like it. It could be that children are trying to gain a certain amount of independence and parents are not willing to let go. Where ever the tensions stem, emotions can rise which fuels arguments. In this post, I am going to let you in on a little parenting psychology and show you the strategies I use for avoiding arguments with children.
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Good early morning to all! Have you ever had an idea so obvious- you felt like you were slapped in the face with it?Yesterday- that’s exactly what happened to me. The idea for this article came from the sky- literally! Once it hit me, I knew what I wanted to write. What you will find inside is a real key to education seldom discussed.
We are living in an age where red pens are not allowed to be used by some teachers in schools because the ink gives the wrong message. We are also living in a time when everyone on a youth sports team receives a trophy no matter the team’s record or the child’s contribution. Finally, we are living in a moment where teachers aren’t allowed to fail a child in some schools. I don’t have the definitive answer as to when recognition should be given. That answer comes down to your core values as a parent. What I can do though is to tell you how the best parents I have ever seen work with this issue and how your humble writer approaches the issue with his own children.
The television in today’s home can mean so many things. For some, it’s a status symbol. For others, it’s instant babysitting when a parent needs a break. Most of us also wouldn’t dispute the entertainment value. But, there’s a hidden consequence not talked about often which may have you think twice before your child watches the next latest greatest show.
I feel that sports are a great addition to the maturation process for any child capable of playing. But where a child plays is equally as important as the sport itself.
Some leagues are geared to be competitive. Catholic school sports (in my area) are the first that come to mind-especially in the middle school years. Their goal is to win each game and play the best players in order to achieve their means. Systems are taught but all players aren’t “developed.” The players that coaches concentrate on are the ones again to achieve the final goal of winning. It seems to me the development of a player is more in the hands of the parents. This was true when I was young and I haven’t seen evidence to the contrary.