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Why I Avoid Arguing with Children

When parents and children live in the same house for years, tensions can get a little high at times.  It may be that parents feel children need to be disciplined and children do not like it.  It could be that children are trying to gain a certain amount of independence and parents are not willing to let go.  Where ever the tensions stem, emotions can rise which fuels arguments.  In this post, I am going to let you in on a little parenting psychology and show you the strategies I use for avoiding arguments with children.

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Detention for Kindergarten Tardiness?

A Texas kindergarten student named Brooke from Olympia Elementary School was subjected to two days of lunch detention due to being tardy.  This specifically means that the child sat facing a wall by herself.  On the surface, this probably sounds absolutely ridiculous to a lot of my readers.  This post is going to take an honest look though at the specifics of the case and determine if the school was wrong in punishing the child.

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Teachable Moments

Good early morning to all!  Have you ever had an idea so obvious- you felt like you were slapped in the face with it?Yesterday- that’s exactly what happened to me.  The idea for this article came from the sky- literally!  Once it hit me, I knew what I wanted to write.  What you will find inside is a real key to education seldom discussed.

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At What Point Should Children Earn Recognition

We are living in an age where red pens are not allowed to be used by some teachers in schools because the ink gives the wrong message.  We are also living in a time when everyone on a youth sports team receives a trophy no matter the team’s record or the child’s contribution. Finally, we are living in a moment where teachers aren’t allowed to fail a child in some schools. I don’t have the definitive answer as to when recognition should be given.  That answer comes down to your core values as a parent.  What I can do though is to tell you how the best parents I have ever seen work with this issue and how your humble writer approaches the issue with his own children.

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Setting Expectations

Have you ever wondered if you were being too tough or too easy on your child?  It’s a very common problem with parents.  How do you push without being pushy?  How do you know when to take charge and when to back off?  These are not easy answers but after reading this article; you should feel more confident in what you are doing while understanding when to make adjustments.

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The Most Overlooked Consequence of Television on Children

The television in today’s home can mean so many things. For some, it’s a status symbol. For others, it’s instant babysitting when a parent needs a break. Most of us also wouldn’t dispute the entertainment value. But, there’s a hidden consequence not talked about often which may have you think twice before your child watches the next latest greatest show.

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Communication with Young Children

Communication with a child is one of the real keys of raising him/her in a respectful, smart, and disciplined manner.  It’s also important to start these keys while a child is young.  In this case, I am describing a young child as being between the ages of 2 and 5 years of age.  The longer ineffective communication is allowed in the home, the harder it is to reel them back in during times of trouble.  Here are some of the strategies and how they work.

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Applying Discipline

Many parents I talk to want to know my “smoking gun” of discipline.  They are interested in finding out how I have made very difficult children behave in such a pleasant manner.  No one is perfect with children and I’ve had moments when I wish I would have done things a little better.  Overall though, I work well with difficult children.  Today, I’m going to give you some insight on how I accomplish this.

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3 D's of Discipline

Have you ever noticed that parenting can be a lot like a roller coaster?  Sometimes, you are flying high after your child achieves a milestone and sometimes you feel like you’re going to “lose your lunch” based on something your child has done.  Today’s post is meant to assist parents when times are tough with a child and effective discipline is in order.

Many times, parents feel the low points when their child has misbehaved and it is time to implement some discipline.  The shock of the misbehavior may be enough for some of us.  Others though have an even harder time because it’s difficult to implement discipline in such a way as to educate versus retaliate.  It’s with this in mind that I’ve come up with three D’s you should remember when disciplining your child.

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Sports Leagues for Children

I feel that sports are a great addition to the maturation process for any child capable of playing.  But where a child plays is equally as important as the sport itself.

Some leagues are geared to be competitive.  Catholic school sports (in my area) are the first that come to mind-especially in the middle school years.  Their goal is to win each game and play the best players in order to achieve their means.  Systems are taught but all players aren’t “developed.” The players that coaches concentrate on are the ones again to achieve the final goal of winning. It seems to me the development of a player is more in the hands of the parents.  This was true when I was young and I haven’t seen evidence to the contrary.

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