Regular readers of this blog know my focus is on helping with their children. I take a lot of pride in knowing what a difference I have made through your comments and emails. Today’s topic will be a bit different but very effective if utilized properly.
One aspect of parenting underutilized is taking pride in you. By this I mean not just as a parent but as a person. Many people I know don’t want to toot their own horn because it is not in their nature. Regardless, if you aren’t tooting your own horn for the good you do- who will?
Now, you may ask why this is important. The answer is pretty simple. You are modeling for your child what pride looks like. This is different than when the child does something good and you clap for them. When you take pride in something you do, the child receives a visual which is totally different than the feeling the child gets when they take pride in themselves.
Here is an example of what I am getting at. I take a lot of pride in writing this blog and my children know it. Because I take pride in my work, my children look up to me in a different way than if I were only doing this because it was my job. Don’t get me wrong, a parent can certainly take pride in their career. I’m saying that because I take pride in myself with blogging, I give my kids another reason to be proud of me. Because my kiddos are proud of what I do, it helps in other areas such as academics, athletics, and discipline.
Another way to think about this is to picture a dad you know who doesn’t have a job and responds by getting drunk all the time. Do you believe the father is proud of himself for what he is doing? Do you think children with this type of father can take pride in what their dad is doing? If your answers to these questions are “no” then we are on the same page.
Therefore, my message to you today is this. Think about something you do every day that you are proud of and let it show in your actions and in your work. When you do this, your child will respond positively to you which will cause a lot more happy times in the long run and fewer problems as well. Also, be proud of what you have accomplished with your parenting. Though we’ve all made mistakes, giving ourselves a pat on the back for the good we have done for kids is well deserved!
I’ll check in with you again Friday and I hope you have a great week!