We are living in an age where red pens are not allowed to be used by some teachers in schools because the ink gives the wrong message. We are also living in a time when everyone on a youth sports team receives a trophy no matter the team’s record or the child’s contribution. Finally, we are living in a moment where teachers aren’t allowed to fail a child in some schools. I don’t have the definitive answer as to when recognition should be given. That answer comes down to your core values as a parent. What I can do though is to tell you how the best parents I have ever seen work with this issue and how your humble writer approaches the issue with his own children.